Domestic violence survivor uses her experience to help others
Patricia Taylor is very open about her past.
“I would always say I’d rather be hit than to have verbal or emotional abuse, because it takes you so much longer to heal,” said Taylor.
The mother of three and grandmother says she survived two abusive relationships. Neither started out that way.
The second one got really bad when she tried to leave. She says her then husband pushed her to the ground, she broke her ankle and had to go to the emergency room.
“He would not leave my bedside because he was afraid I was going to say what happened,” said Taylor.
Taylor didn’t tell the doctors but she did eventually leave the marriage.
Partnership for Families, Children and Adults gave her shelter when she needed it.
“They welcomed you. It was home. I had a room. I had peace. I could finally rest and not worry or look over my shoulder,” Taylor told Channel 3.
Taylor says she got sober and got a job. Today, she works for the same nonprofit that helped her.
She is Partnership's New Vision Specialist. She provides support and guidance to victims of domestic violence as they rebuild their lives.
“I love the name new vision because it gives you that time to see what your vision is. We're there to hopefully prepare them to reach out into the community so they come from shelter to new vision which can be anywhere from a one to three year program,” said Taylor.
"If you've been there you can understand where a person is coming from because all of the trauma that people experience, how they behave because of that trauma, sometimes it's hard for a person to understand. She's very trauma informed and understands what that trauma looks like,” said Partnership’s Chief Operating Officer Regina McDevitt.
Unfortunately, returning to an abuser is common. Taylor knows because she’s been through that too.
“That honeymoon phase, that’s what gets you. I’ll change, I’ll get counseling, buys you all kinds of gifts, so you go back,” said Taylor.
Partnership for Families, Children and Adults has evolved over the years and now accepts pets on a case by case basis. Many times those animals are a person’s whole world and the victim won’t leave an abusive situation without them.
Taylor says she’s in a good place now and hopes that her experience can save someone else.
“I relate to my clients. I share my story. It is not about me but I want them to know that they too can overcome and they will survive this storm,” said Taylor.
Click here to learn about the programs offered by the nonprofit.